Many people know that they should love themselves to find greater peace but do not know how to attain that state. As children we learned to seek love, comfort and support from our parents or caregivers. Our minds have been conditioned that if someone out there would just hold us, we would feel much better. Beneath all of our earthly desires is simply the yearning to feel peace.

As I watched the debates over the last few weeks, I kept wondering, "Who is telling the truth?" Politicians create their persona and tout their opinions on issues based on what image is going to give them the most votes. The same with dating, most men and women go out on dates with the guise that will provide the best opportunity to get a nod from the object of their affection.

Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you feel when you do something for the first time? Remember your first day at school, the first time you rode a bike or even your first day at a new job? I just recently moved 1800 miles from Denver to New York, leaving my full-time practice to start over again in a strange city. Change can be scary and that is why people avoid it so much.

Sometimes we get so caught up in the everyday tasks that we seem to have forgotten our purpose. Our mind thinks about the next meal, the next bill to pay or the next meeting we have to attend and we get lost in the details of life. When we let ourselves run on autopilot, we give permission to our subconscious mind to just recreate the same scenarios over and over again.

You may be familiar with the critical voice in your mind that tells you that there are no good ones left, you are not attractive enough or that men are jerks. Being so familiar with the voice or negative mind chatter, you actually believe what you are telling yourself. These consistent thoughts are simply an old habit and have no real substance to them.

Many who come to me for hypnosis have had enough of their specific issue and they are ready for a new approach. After years of trying various prescription drugs, talk therapy and other alternative remedies they still seem to have a difficult time changing their behavior. With hypnosis, a simple shift in the subconscious can do the trick and I send them happily on their way.

In these trying times, many are concerned about their jobs, investments and the future of our great country. According to the law of attraction, what you think about you create more of in life. Listening to the news and talking with friends and co-workers, your mind is constantly flooded with negative ideas, impending doom and the supposed sad reality of the current state of affairs.

The holidays often bring up a variety of emotions. The expectation that we should be feeling jolly and grateful throughout the season can create a tremendous amount of pressure. Uncomfortable emotions such as stress or loneliness can have us seeking external ways to fix it.

We look for joy in people, things, food, and drink. This kind of joy is temporary, and unreal, since it is dependent on something outside of us.

I recently was interviewed by a writer on Match.com regarding the email communications between prospective online daters. It made me realize how our dating society has changed.

In my dating days, I remember the difference in how men communicated with me after seeing my online dating ad. Some jumped right in and gave me their life story in the first email, while others remained strangely aloof.

Many people arrive at my office after recently going through a painful breakup. They want to know how to cope with a split with their boyfriend, spouse or even just their latest fling. Experiencing bad breakup depression, they wonder if there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Currently, the marriage breakup statistics are around 67% so there is an epidemic of relationship problems.